I find it easiest to think about how the rod and lollipop moves when you move the shift lever.
Move the knob at the top of the shifter forward, the bottom end moves backward, pushes the shift selector input in.
Move the knob at the top of the shifter backwards, the bottom end moves forward and pulls the shift selector out.
Move the knob to the left (driver's view, or from behind the car) towards 1st and 2nd) and the rod rotates the shifter rod and lollipop counterclockwise (again, looking forward). If you have a transmission on the bench with visegrips clamped on the input shaft you are looking backwards, so this is a clockwise rotation of the input shaft.
Move the knob to the right (driver's view, or from behind the car) towards 5th and R and the rod rotates the shifter rod and lollipop clockwise (again, looking forward). If you have the transmission on the bench with visegrips clamped on the input shaft you are looking at it backwards, so this is a counterclockwise rotation of the input shaft.
So when you have the transmission on the bench front end facing you (or more likely you're on your back underneath the car looking rearwards as you marinate your hair in an oil leak):
input shaft turned clockwise and pushed in: 1st
input shaft turned clockwise and pulled out : 2nd
input shaft centered, pushed in: 3d
input shaft centered, pulled out: 4th
input shaft turned counterclockwise and pushed in: 5th, if you have it. 4-speeds will lock this movement out
input shaft turned counterclockwise and pulled out: reverse
input shaft in the middle position between pushed in and pulled out: neutral, and it will rotate both clockwise and counterclockwise (which is how you can select any gear from neutral)