Hello,
Some of you may know me, I'm Ian's girlfriend, Rose. I have tragic news to share with the group. On Sunday, my love partner of eight years, Ian committed suicide. He was in just too much pain to go on living. In a last desperate act to end his suffering, he stepped in front of a speeding train. I am devastated beyond measure. I want the group to know that I tried everything I could over the last couple of years to help him but in the end, he had reached his personal limit. My heart has been ripped out.
Please do not judge him. Over the past year, he's been in intensive mental treatment. He was so strong and he fought tooth and nail to live, because I knew he would NEVER leave me willingly. He was such a gentle soul and it killed me to watch helplessly as he slipped away from me and life slowly. He was just so very sad. He had so many personal losses, among them never getting over the death of his father.
I want you to know that he counted all of you as friends. He often recounted his trip to England with his ex-girlfriend, Holly and how wonderful this group was in hosting the two of them. It meant the world to him. He was never happier than talking about his little broken orange Fiat or working on this forum - his baby. Thank you for giving him so much happiness! I will be forever grateful to all of you for the escape this forum provided.
In closing, I would urge each of you to listen carefully when a loved one says he/she wouldn't be missed, they have no friends, they don't matter, or worst yet, do the equivalent of retiring from a forum they loved. He was slowly saying goodbye and none of us knew it. If something doesn't sound or feel right, listen to your gut - intervene! Let them be angry. They'll be angry and alive. Make sure the people you love, know you love them every day.
Please remember him fondly and in love.
Rose Sonenthal
Some of you may know me, I'm Ian's girlfriend, Rose. I have tragic news to share with the group. On Sunday, my love partner of eight years, Ian committed suicide. He was in just too much pain to go on living. In a last desperate act to end his suffering, he stepped in front of a speeding train. I am devastated beyond measure. I want the group to know that I tried everything I could over the last couple of years to help him but in the end, he had reached his personal limit. My heart has been ripped out.
Please do not judge him. Over the past year, he's been in intensive mental treatment. He was so strong and he fought tooth and nail to live, because I knew he would NEVER leave me willingly. He was such a gentle soul and it killed me to watch helplessly as he slipped away from me and life slowly. He was just so very sad. He had so many personal losses, among them never getting over the death of his father.
I want you to know that he counted all of you as friends. He often recounted his trip to England with his ex-girlfriend, Holly and how wonderful this group was in hosting the two of them. It meant the world to him. He was never happier than talking about his little broken orange Fiat or working on this forum - his baby. Thank you for giving him so much happiness! I will be forever grateful to all of you for the escape this forum provided.
In closing, I would urge each of you to listen carefully when a loved one says he/she wouldn't be missed, they have no friends, they don't matter, or worst yet, do the equivalent of retiring from a forum they loved. He was slowly saying goodbye and none of us knew it. If something doesn't sound or feel right, listen to your gut - intervene! Let them be angry. They'll be angry and alive. Make sure the people you love, know you love them every day.
Please remember him fondly and in love.
Rose Sonenthal
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